Curation-Relationship

Women are particular about colour of flower & feelings inside flower , the venue you give them at , and the story you create behind that , the timing & yet the unexpected moves. About vacations, i guess its more about moments, intimacy, joy and bonding. About surprises , women loves thrill, mystery, and unexpected modes in life.

Any Unenthusiastic person is a zinda laash. A living dead. Baat khatam.

The concept of self love is not just about really loving own self. Its about loving non living things & entities and doing activities that returns the love invested with certainty. By loving that something else , it returns love in some form and that is taken absorbed into us, that we call self love. Now , this is a particular way of living. This in my view also builds a character worth loving & a certain degree of self dependence. That makes you less of a liability & more of an art piece.  That art piece becomes self loving and is able to love back too. Anyways , opposite to this concept will be about being a confused liability that experiences failures due to always needing somebody and lacking joy after they go missing , while always feeling empty especially when they look at the world in terms of character. These people are harder to guide due to their addiction to always needing a comfort to live in & repeated behaviours from childhood to live with living entit...

If there's something that needs to be fixed in her.... It needs to be told to her. (There's a way of that 1) but she also needs to be having that attitude that knows to listen to the point without taking a side. That way in 2 side constructive debate, and without involving in it, without really taking it personally, kindly & yet attempting to know truth consciously. . . That makes her to be a better person gradually. And it makes her a great wife. While it is also a worthy topic to think of how from a advisor's point of view, can it be told politely & kindly without gaslighting or making them feel inferior. In a teaching scenario or advisory scenario, one would only take advices is he/she believes you to be equal and a friend, that too on our side.

The point is really not about how to get a girl to be in relationship with. The real thing is to keep being in relationship. Maintaining it. That's where natural bonding comes. That's where examinations and tests comes.  2 people has to be in complimentary pages of their life, and pace has to be same , so that they can "grow together". They're not gonna be what they used to be 20 years ago , or what will happen after 10 years from now on. The spice in both must be ever regenerative. Thus "growing together" becomes important.

There are 2 things at the core 1) Samajh : so that having good samajh means her choices , values , mindset, thinking would be good. Would not tend towards degeneracy. 2) Upbringing : this matters because this will help making good samajh & empower in certain areas, prevent weakness, mediocrity in mindset , destructive comfort love & settling for less mindset. If upbringing is good , there's high chance of samajh. If it was not good, still some people make it. But samajh hi naa ho , to upbringing would atleast keep them in boundaries (max cases) & dono naa ho to problems (that too for others).

The key is to speak languages that partner speaks, so that you don't spend your entire lifetime translating the words for them. Communication sets the path. Besides words play important role in setting the language of Love. Which ... Is even harder to translate. Keeping words simple is keeping live love simple in transactional world (initially) While after a while (later on) , loving without words sets the path and should be.

Caring in response to little little observed things of her impresses her. Persona reading and behaviour pattern reading becomes important. Showing them without really saying anything of credits is key.

I maintain my attraction before & after marriage, be it in fitness or spice. Don't let body get loose , and convey the same to other end. Attraction must not fade away. Don't give in value, preserve value. Pick a certain person who can change as you change , while enjoying each other's changes. Married couple are not what they used to be before 20 years. See scope. See appetite & potential. See current page & page suitability.